You have the dual stress of grieving your father-in-law and coping with the unexpected decision you were all forced to make, and providing support to a family that you love. Your shoes are not easy to walk in. For that reason I wonder, are you someone who might consider speaking with a counselor? Sometimes having an objective and nonjudgmental ear can go a long way in helping a person to organize and sort through their innermost thoughts.
Hi Kim, Sorry for the loss of your mom. Everyone is different, therefore everyone handles and copes with grief very differently. There are no steadfast tracks that say either way anything. You did say you have a dissociative disorder, if your taking any kind of medication for this, it can also have an effect on your emotions. Hope you have lots of loved ones and friends near you during this time. Sometimes we laugh so hard we will have a little cry too..
Hope my thoughts are able to help you. With Peace and Light, Mardelle. My mother just died on May 1st There have been moments of tears, but no cracking open into full bereavement. I do have a dissociative disorder. I always have a delayed reaction to emotional things. I did have some depressive very slow non functioning days last week.
But right now I seem to be functioning mostly normally.
At this phase, some people make extreme efforts to put the death out of mind: sometimes they abuse drugs or alcohol or throw themselves into a frenzy of work, athletics or sexual activity. When someone dies, it reveals the faultlines in the bereaved family, even the deepest, most hidden ones. Horowitz and his colleagues at the University of California will be published later this spring in the book ''Introduction to Psychodynamics,'' from Basic Books. Ideas worth spreading. Stock Image.
Just a small amount of concentration issues. I am a little alarmed at my lack of brokenness. Any thoughts please? Also, it is not at all uncommon to feel a little numb after someone dies. H ere is a post on that. In many ways you will grieve her loss forever and if you know you are prone to your emotions coming out little by little, it would make sense that you will experience you grief in different ways in the days, weeks, months, and years to come.
My mom passed away on May 3rd It was sudden but also expected. She was fighting ovarian cancer for a year. I remained optimistic that she might win.
Until in April she became bedridden then lost appatite, her potassium level shot up and albumin at a critical level of 1. She behaved find when the ambulance took her away, but a day later she was falling apart, then the following morning was dying. It all happened so fast.
It was acute kidney failure that killed her. During the day I was with her, I was calm. I spoke things of light, did my best to make dad, mom and I feel better.
I stayed with her until her last breath and closed her eyes. Then I can resume an almost normal life until another trigger comes along. I loved her more than anything. So did dad. Why am I so calm? I should be completely incapacitated. I loved her so much and I miss her so much. Why am I calm most of the time? Ovarian Cancer is a silent killer and is fatal because women catch it late. Prior to her death, I cried every night, stopped writing my book and enjoyed life less.
Am I relieved of her suffering? She was so miserable. I understand it well, my mom has passed as well. I have had this experience myself at different times with grief. I refer to it as a delayed state of grieving, even sometimes a numbness. The brain and heart need to sync up and deal with the loss at the same time.
There is no right or wrong ways to express or experience, it will be moments of release, much like waves washing on the shore. Some moments will be calm with sunshine, other times will be rough waves washing angrily upon the shore with dark skies and tears. Know that you were so loved by your mom and that she will always be with you in spirit. Every time you think of your mom, she is thinking of you too and you are together forever.
I hope this helps you in some way. Feeling Nothing During Grief: The disorienting experience of emotional numbness 2.
keyxelvilelat.ga Grief Makes You Crazy 3. I have had it all my life. It is a kind of grief that comes from experiences that one has not had i.
The Grieving Time: A Year's Account of Recovery from Loss [Anne M. Brooks] on pameparrodan.cf *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. Sharing a month-by-month. Like the millions of people who face a time of grieving, Anne Brooks looked desperately for something to read that would offer comfort after her husband's death.
There must be some kind of name for this type of grief. I really enjoyed your article.
I was wondering if whatsyourgrief. I felt like this was comprehensive but that it missed some information about how these types of grief can be caused loss in general not necessarily death. Oh yeah, we have articles on all sorts of things related to all types of losses! You might start with these…. Expanding Our Understandings of Loss. Adjustment After Loss. My father died when I was 18 months old. I am now Throughout my life I have grieved this loss at different times.
I struggle with the fact that I miss someone that I dont have any memories of. Now at 24 I feel I am grieving a lot.
I am drawn to learning more about who he was, wishing I could hear his voice, wishing so much for a father. I wonder what category this would be.
It is a strange situation, and I often feel very guilty for being sad about losing someone I dont even know, when my mother and sister were older and lost someone that they actually remember. Mariah, it is funny, because I can understand your guilt and yet I have felt the guilt that lives on the other side of that coin! My sister was much younger than me when our dad died and I often feel guilty that I have so many more memories of him than she does and that I at least got to know him as a teenager when she only knew him as a child.
What you are feeling now is totally normal.
When people lose someone as a child that grief changes and evolves over time. That includes things like learning more about who they were. Also, another thing that is often not discussed is that we can and do! Ahhh what a great question Marie. He was murdered at the age of He was my big brother and we was extremely close 3 years apart so we did everything together growing up. It seems though like my grieving is getting worse. I really miss him.
Soon to be 28 years now since the love of my life and soul mate just newlyweds celebrated 2 years being married, when we were hit by 2 Cars while walking. My husband was killed instantly.